Toxic masculinity…

Quick Epiphany:

The men in my life who have ever treated me well, with kindness, respect, love and genuine concern/ friendship are actually the men who have been doing equally as well or better than me in life.

It’s only the one’s doing worse in life that seem to be hurting women or disempowering females.

I’m not referring to men who cheat or lie. This post is referring to the men who make a conscious attempt to hurt the woman who actually genuinely cares about him. This is the man who treats any woman like she isn’t good enough (not just for him, but in general) to a point where she questions her worth because of him. The man who’s only sense of power is found in his ability to tear down the spirit of the woman who actually loves him.

A man’s role is to provide and protect. The people who are mad at the people who care about them for no reason except for the fact that they need to be mad all the time is usually because they can’t protect or provide. (Protect in a physical sense only goes so far too fellas, just FYI. Better start working on your mind muscles and empathy muscles before a man who’s the same height and size as me comes along and steals yo girl).

Also ladies – you need to make sure you’re empowered enough and have enough self-awareness to understand the difference between a man disrespecting you, and you feeling disrespected. Develop a backbone and sense of self-empowerment.

Now I’m far from a feminist… I think this world needs more people standing up for men who actually don’t do anything wrong or deserve the criticism. However, I will happily say #FreeRKelly while also calling a lot of men out on their bullshxt when it needs to be done.

That is not the same as “all men” – I understand some men are straight up savage. Some may swear too much. Some may make too many inappropriate jokes (in general), some may be nonchalant. Some may appear straight up d**kheads who will tell it like it is – but that’s how they are – it’s not to hurt anyone. If that’s who you are & you’re not causing pain, the world can deal with it.

Men who are truly confident actually treat people well – especially women. This has nothing to do with “lying” or “cheating” – I’m taking about how you treat people and how you make them feel.

If you can’t be good to someone who’s good to you, you’re trying to intimidate them and usually it’s because you’re intimidated.

Men always talk about wanting an honest woman – well here’s your honesty. Take note.

I may have had my heart broken here and there but never by a man who was actually doing better than me in life (I’m not just talking income; I’m talking mentally, emotionally and spiritually). Now this post is in no way shape or form trying to emasculate men AT ALL.

But if you’re someone who lives in your ego and wants to belittle others for no reason, I figured I would give you a taste of your own medicine. (I’m a Libra, I’m literally the sign of balance and justice… wink wink).

If you’re genuinely a good man (and there are so many out there, most men I know are genuinely good men) you already know this post doesn’t apply to you and wouldn’t offend you. This is more for the ones who need a bit of a reality check. Some of us see right through egos.

Now you may read this and think I’m completeeeely wrong. That’s great. Carry on with your life. Just thought I’d give a lil something to think about. Thanks for reading :)))