If you know me personally, you’ll understand this post 😉
My whole life I’ve been misunderstood. My personality doesn’t always portray my heart, my emotions or the complexities of my thoughts. (I’m a Libra with my moon in Gemini and mercury in Scorpio #IYKYK).
It used to actually upset me. I’d try my hardest to understand people and I felt as though I was always misunderstood. Believe it or not, it weighs heavy on a person.
Now I think it’s safe to say life has put me through the wringer. I’m glad it did because I’ve grown (internally, obviously not externally since I’m about 2ft tall but anywayyyy).
I have developed an understanding of what it means to be misunderstood. So I figured I’d share:
When you’re misunderstood, you need to understand that not everyone is going to understand you because they’re not meant to.
You could explain yourself in a thousand different ways on a thousand different days to try and get someone to understand where you’re coming from, and some people simply just won’t.
It might suck because sometimes, these are the people we love and care deeply about, and we tend to think to ourselves “if only they understood this then……” but sometimes they don’t and they won’t.
Instead of feeling so down about it, start asking yourself why you need them to understand you.
So what if someone walks out of your life? So what if you said something with good intentions and they took it the wrong way? Maybe these people aren’t meant to be in your life. Stop forcing people to see where you’re coming from – some literally can’t and some can but choose not to.
(One thing to remember – Any half decent person with half a heart won’t leave you knowing you’re hurting and they’re the cause of it, without making an effort to at least acknowledge what they’ve done/ are doing. Whether there’s misunderstanding or whatever reason).
You can’t please everyone. There are people on this earth, no matter what you do, it’ll never be enough. You can’t care enough, you can’t feed them enough, you can’t bleed enough and you can’t explain yourself enough. If you’re begging/ chasing/ pleading for someone to stay in your life – that’s something you need to work on.
Majority of the time you’ll be judged and misunderstood by the people who literally have no impact on your life anyway.
So understand yourself. Understand your heart. Understand exactly what you’re doing right and where you could improve – on yourself and on your relationships with the people in your life. Focus on what you can control – and that’s you.
In other words, do what you feel you’re here to do. Create art. Create music. Create babies. Create whatever you want. Stop expecting everyone to understand it or resonate with it from your perception. You’re not going to understand or resonate with other people either (for example, I don’t understand or resonate with todays trash mumble rappers but it doesn’t stop them from creating their art since I’m IRRELEVANT AF to their lives and their paycheck… and some people love their music and projects).
So basically, in a nutshell – people who misunderstand you are meant to misunderstand you. The universe has different plans for different people so don’t be overly critical just because they’re on a different path. God/ the universe has it’s reasons.
Understand exactly who you are and why you are how you are. Make sure you’re not hurting anyone. Make sure you apologise when you do. Understand what you have control over. Understand what you don’t have control over. Understand those who don’t understand, are the universe’s way to teach you not everything that crosses your path is meant for you.
Learn the lessons & keep it moving.
C x
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