The reason behind why people lie.

The only reason people lie is because they’re afraid of what the truth might do.

Ask yourself: If you told the truth, what are you afraid of?
The answer is usually something you dislike/ don’t want to admit about yourself.

For example: If you cheat on your partner and refuse to be honest or just “forget” it – it’s because you have a certain image in your mind about the type of the type of person you are, and by admitting what you did, you’ll have to face the consequences (e.g. potential breakup), feel the guilt and shame that you’re currently avoiding.

You’re not afraid of telling the truth, you’re afraid of the perception people will have of you.

The thing is… the truth of who we are catches up to us eventually in one way, shape or form.

Do you wanna know why some people are so easily triggered? Because of the truth. When they haven’t accepted it in themselves, they’ll be triggered every time someone around them says or does something that may bring light to the issue. Then they blame the other person for how they feel, regardless of whatever good intentions they may have had.

Some people have great intentions – but if you keep running from yourself, you’ll never be able to see that and you simply won’t trust them or may even hurt them in trying to protect yourself.

Some may even see right through your facade and still accept you for your good and bad aspects which even you haven’t accepted yourself. It’s like they see you – all of you, and love you. These are the people you’ll cause the most pain to – because despite how pure their love is, it’ll highlight the “not so great” parts of you – and since you won’t admit it’s even there, they’ll walk away questioning themselves and if their love is even enough, while you live your surface-level life of entertainment while never truly understanding what it means to love and be loved, because you refuse to let anyone in.

Face your shadow.

It’s not about viewing yourself as being a bad person. It’s about accepting your “shadow” self – because once you do that, you learn to accept the darker aspects of other people.

This is how we heal ourselves, our relationships and ultimately, the world.

You set yourself free by accepting the truth of who you are – both dark and light.

C x