Know Thyself

I was reflecting on some conversations I’ve recently had with friends and clients, so I wanted to share something that came to mind.

People always say not to care about what other people think. But it’s not about “not caring” about what other people say or think about you, it’s about understanding why they think that.

The only reason other peoples opinions are able to affect you is because you’re unsure of who you are; so when they say something “negative” – you actually believe it or are triggered by it. You trust their judgement about you more than your own judgement about yourself.

This is why it’s important to spend time alone. When you know yourself – the good and the bad – there’s nothing anyone can say or do that can shake you, because you’ve already accepted the “truth” in it – if any; and you’ll easily ascertain what’s being addressed out of their own fears and insecurities – which will have nothing to do with you.

It’s also important to know that there will be people who misunderstand and misinterpret a lot of things about you. There are people who are focused on the negative aspects within everything and everyone except themselves so don’t take it personal.

Just remember you do get to choose who you want in your life.

Some people will see the bad. Some people will see the good – not necessarily always because they’re “good” people – but because they avoid seeing the “negative” aspects of themselves too.

The people who genuinely care about you aren’t the ones who see nothing but the good. They’re the ones who can clearly see the bad, but will remind you of the good that also exists within you – so much that you start to see the good in yourself too.

Don’t just take my word for it though. You’ll realise that all of this becomes easier to embody the more you get to know yourself.

Thanks for reading.

C x