How you see yourself – the ultimate level of personal freedom.

After over two decades on this planet, I’m starting to realise that it’s actually how you see yourself – and how you feel about yourself – matters more than anything else.

So many people spend their lives running from themselves -while focusing on the negative aspects of other people. I, too, used to be the same.

It took me multiple spiritual awakenings and personal transformations in order to understand that once you get to a place in your life where you genuinely feel you’re a good person with a good heart and good intentions, only then, will you be unbothered by the opinions of other people.

People say they don’t care about other people’s opinions and I can sit here and list many reasons as to why you shouldn’t – but I also want to say (with good intentions) that some people really should start caring what other people think.

If you know deep down you’re causing more harm than peace to other people, while having absolutely no intention to right your wrongs – then you should most certainly care about their opinions and try to do better. I don’t say this to be a bitch – I say this because there was a point in time when I used to have that attitude and life truly becomes 100x more beautiful and fulfilling when you decide not to be an arrogant bitch.

Don’t be too hard on yourself either. We’re all human and we all make mistakes – every single one of us. But for the most part, we have opportunities to right those wrongs. If we don’t – then at least apologise for what you’ve done. You’d be surprised at how the smallest things make the biggest difference.

Self-reflection has been pivotal in my personal and spiritual growth; it has been the thing that has allowed me to feel personal freedom.

Put your ego aside and genuinely observe your spirit.

When you reach a point where you can look at yourself – your essence/ being – and not only say, but believe that you’re a good person who’s trying their best to help make the lives of other people better instead of worse – this is the ultimate level of freedom.

From then on, there is nothing anyone can say to you or about you, that will change how you feel about yourself. Acknowledging that yes, maybe you do fall short sometimes (because you’re only human) but you’re trying – because that’s all you can do. This is the epitome of self-love, and once you reach this point, there is nothing anyone can say or do to shake you.

So contrary to popular belief, it isn’t actually about being good looking, having big muscles, money in the bank or the material possessions you own; it’s the person you are being – and how you view your heart/ character/ being – that will set you free from these invisible societal chains. If you don’t like what you see or who you are – I hope you find the courage within yourself to change and become a person you can be proud to be.

Just remember, it’s how you feel about you. Not how the rest of the world sees or feels about you.

Thanks for reading.

C x