Random life contemplation..

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So I was sitting, journalling and contemplating about life.. so I figured I’d create a blog post, as it could resonate with someone else.

Not everyone thinks the exact same way you do. Not everyone feels the same as you about certain topics or people. Everything is constantly changing – and if you find someone who is willing to stand by your side and love you through those changes, then you’re lucky.

Some people spend their entire lives searching for that person. Some people have them and lose them, and spend their entire lives regretting it. Some people simply have made themselves that person.

Your partner should be bringing out a version of you that makes you love yourself more.

They’re not meant to act or speak in a certain way just because it’s what you expect. They’re their own person, and if you love them, you’d love them regardless of if they were catering to you or not; and understand them when things don’t go your way.

Regardless of what we’ve seen in movies, I think real love is messy as fuck.

It’s uncertain. It’s not always going to be easy.

But in those moments, you both understand that it’s not always going to be hard, either.

I used to think I was going to be married with kids by around 22. I’m 28 in a few months.

I used to think I was falling behind in comparison to my friends and younger family members who have started their own families. But as I reflect, I realise that as hard as my twenties have been – it has shaped me into who I’m meant to be, to be a good wife and mother for my future husband and children.

When you don’t get what you want, you get something else – a lesson. You can use that lesson to make you bitter and strengthen your ego; or you can use it to humble you and open your heart. Believe me, I used to prefer the former…. until life pushed me to a point where I had no choice but to choose the latter.

Until you understand and accept every part of you – the good and bad – you’ll fail to understand the people around you.

I wish someone told me a few years ago that I needed to stop trying to control certain things, because while I may not believe in the “God” that I’ve been taught to believe, I definitely believe in God; a higher power – who is the one in control.

Don’t force anything, especially love.

Love, I realised, is actually special. I’m in my feels right now, so don’t judge my corniness.

Love isn’t meant to be something that’s dependent on how it’s received or perceived by another person. It took me a whole decade to truly understand that my worth isn’t dependent on who loves me back. My worth will always be how I see myself and how I see my heart. It’ll be my intentions – not the visible outcome.

I’ve learned more from the invisible than the physical reality I’ve been placed in.

I’ve learned that it’s all an experience which will eventually end at some point.

I’ve learned that true love is seeing a part of yourself within another; a feeling of resonance. If your feelings are dependent on titles and physicality, it’s probably your ego.

I’ve learned that a song can touch your soul more than a man can.

I’ve learned this world can only put you down if you give them the power to.

I’ve learned that circumstances and situations don’t define someone’s character.

I’ve learned that not getting what I wanted was a blessing.

I’ve learned patience is the key to everything working out – whether it’s a job, a goal or a relationship.

I’ve learned no matter how much of a good person I try to be, some people will only focus on the negative – and that’s more about them than me.

I’ve learned that a man who understands you is more valuable than a man who can buy you the world.

I’ve learned that we’re all somewhat lost and trying to find our way in this world.

I’ve learned that the answers are usually there; we just like to avoid it by continuing to ask questions.

I’ve learned that life’s short, and your ego won’t ever make a worthwhile difference; but your heart will.

I’ve learned we know ourselves best.

I’ve learned that as long as you keep a good heart and good intentions, the universe will always make sure you’re ok.

I’ve learned we’re all doing the best we can based off what we know, and what we’ve experienced.

I’ve learned that our mind can also be a prison.

I’ve learned that if a person is meant for you, you won’t need to convince them.

I’ve learned that it’s really not all that deep…. and yet, it’s all veryyyyy deep, if you really think about it.

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