The truth will set you free – but who’s truth?

In my last post, I wrote about how I was a deep thinker and an even deeper feeler.

As I move forward in life and gain sparks of wisdom from people, places, circumstances and situations, I realise that not everyone is the same. Nor are they meant to be.

We’ve all heard “The truth will set you free”… but who’s truth?

I created my business in 2016. I had so many creative ideas and so much inspiration at that time, I felt like I really could make a difference in the lives of so many people.

Then in 2017, life took a change – most would say, for the worst.

Over these past three years of my life, I’ve gained a different type of knowledge and wisdom. The type that you don’t pay $10,000 for a course. This type of wisdom came from mercilessly tearing your world upside down. Again… again and again.

It all came down to empathy.

Now believe me, I’m not out here saying I’m Mother Teresa (excuse the pun) or that I have everything figured out perfectly. I don’t. I still make jokes to mask my pain at times. I still say and think things that aren’t coming from my higher or ‘best’ self. I’m human, just like everyone else.

But after everything I’ve endured, witnessed and experienced, my empathy provided me with ultimate level of peace within.

Life is interesting. We feel like we need to have it all figured out – so we listen to people who we trust know what they’re talking about… until we realise we learn the best from ourselves.

I always believed having empathy was a downfall. Everyone else around me told me having empathy was my downfall. When I reflect, it probably is my biggest downfall. It’s also my biggest gift.

My spiritual journey, especially within the past 3 years, has enabled me to truly embody the fact that life is just a mirror. When we see ourselves clearly, we see others clearly – and we see our impact on other people and vice versa.

We live in a surface-level based society. It confused a lot of the people in my life because I was focused on emotions rather than the situation at hand. It’s probably be best to have a good balance of both.

So, back to what I said earlier – ‘the truth will set you free’ – who’s truth? Your truth.

The first thing is to identify how you feel. Then acknowledge how you may be making the person (you’re at conflict with) feel like that?

See, life is a mirror. The law of attraction.

Once you realise you’re feeling how they feel or felt, you understand them. Then you can make a choice on how to proceed.

Now this stuff is deep. But it’s their reaction to how you’re making them feel, which makes you feel the same way they feel. (Read that sentence again).

This didn’t mean it justifies the person’s actions.

For example (not my situation, but to understand this concept):

A person is making no time for their partner because they’re always working. This leaves their partner to feel hurt and rejected.
So the other partner ends up cheating – causing the other partner (who was always working) to feel hurt and rejected.

It’s not instantaneous and it definitely isn’t always justifiable – especially in extreme/ serious/ violent situations. But what people tend to do is be so focused on the action/ circumstance or situation – that they overlook the emotion behind it all.

So many people do the whole “I only did this because you did this” or “you made me do that”.

So the example above – if the hardworking partner decided to cheat because he/ she got cheated on, this would never resolve anything. Instead, he/ she should be focusing on finding ways to make the other partner feel loved and valued; receiving the same back as a result. Unfortunately, most of us stay stuck in the actual situation of the past.

Do not take this wrong, the action and situation is extremely important and people need to deal with consequences. Some of these may be social, political, legal or financial consequences. This is about dealing with it at a personal level, for ourselves. It really even has nothing to do with the person.

But by understanding the emotion that drives the action, you get to give yourself the peace you deserve.

The truth will set you free. Who’s truth? You’re truth. And their truth. Look within.

Use your emotions to understand and empathise. Use your mind to move forward without the anger or hatred.

Give yourself the personal freedom.

By the way, it goes without saying, but this post relates to personal, one-on-one situations and making peace from personal relationships. It’s not to justify your dislike for someone you don’t know or not liking the President or a celebrity or what not.

Thank you for reading.

C x